Everyone is familiar with the famous phrase “Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus”. Indeed, the sexes have many differences in psychology, thinking, logic, physical components and of course in intimate desires and intimacy.
Freedom in sexual relations between people is very developed in many European countries. For example, erotic salons in the Czech Republic are fully legalized and same-sex marriages are allowed in this country. And in Italy, even retired ladies do not mind having temporary flings and going on dates. Many couples often cannot understand each other, quarrels and resentments arise, the desire for intimacy disappears and most often this is due to gender specifics.
Male desires
For this male gender, sex is a physiological process, it does not require a certain preparation and mood. Arousal appears, an erection comes, and he is already ready for sexual intercourse, and the need is physical, it is necessary to relieve internal pressure. In men, sex can be compared to eating and defined as a natural physiological need.
If a man is without a pair – does not mean that he will tolerate and wait for the right occasion, for this simply applies self-satisfaction.
Even after a quarrel he is ready to enter into intimacy unlike women. The weaker sex often says: they only want sex. They do! Of course, no one cancels courtship, romantic dates, candy-bouquet period, but it is all aimed almost only to achieve one goal, it is to master a woman. Also do not forget that every man wants to be an alpha male and refusals are sometimes perceived very deeply and painfully. The main thing in bed is the brightness and energy that he gets after. Appearance is very important, a man is unlikely to get intimate with a girl who is not sexually attractive to him. This is not to say that a woman’s intelligence, character and atmosphere with her are not important. It’s not about extra pounds, hair color, how long her legs are or how big her breasts are. It’s about charisma, tenderness, femininity, radiance and creating a holiday around her. Many will ask, but what about love? Naturally, during the period of relationship there are feelings, with a girl, friendship is established, care is shown, gradually growing into love, people become closer and sex only strengthens their union.
What do women expect from sex?
With ladies, everything is much more interesting and complicated. A girl will feel true attraction only when she realizes that she is in comfort and safety. The female gender also wants intimacy and feels such an impulse especially during ovulation. Hormonal, monthly, physiological processes significantly affect desire and arousal. After misunderstandings and not clarifying the relationship after a quarrel, women more often slam the door and go to sleep in another room, rather than dream of a stormy night. And indeed, in such moments they do not experience any sexual desires.
Can a woman fake an orgasm? Sure, and many practice it quite often, but then suffer from dissatisfaction. Men can simply lose an erection during the act, but never imitate the final.
Girls do not get turned on with half a turn, they need foreplay, warm languor and anticipation of the future evening. Sharp impulses to sex are more often associated with surprise, delight and the realization that there is a real man.
The female sex after intimacy is filled with energy, they want to talk, and men on the contrary need rest and peace. Therefore, if your partner quickly fell asleep after the act, it is a standard physiology, and not a manifestation of indifference.
Achieving sexual harmony
Unconditional unity in desires does not exist, we are all different, as well as there is the influence of various factors.
What is the sexual constitution? In simple words, it is libido. Someone is enough a few times a week, and others need it daily. And if there is such a peculiarity in a couple, it is quite difficult to please both.
Why do women not want sex? Even in the presence of close relationships and love, ladies simply may not feel the desire, stress, problems, children, household, rifts with a partner and so on, which can not be said about men. In such situations, they need to rest, relax, distract themselves, get attention from their loved one, an erotic massage or a romantic dinner will be a great solution.
Daredevils can even visit the studio and book an erotic massage specially designed for couples, so that both of them can relax. Is it possible to repair a relationship after cheating? It is possible, but very difficult. Again, the view of this situation is different. A man can love his passport, but suddenly give in to temptation at the same time, without giving it any meaning. But if they cheat on him, it’s just a disaster. Statistically, women are more likely to forgive cheating. But the ladies decide that taking such a step is very difficult. More often on such actions they are moved by revenge, resentment or search for new relationships after realizing that the current ones are cracking at the seams. They say that if he loves, he does not cheat, yes, but no one is immune from mistakes and sudden infatuations. It is important for the stronger sex to know that they want to be admired, and not fulfill marital duty out of guilt or without desire.
There are ways to improve sex life, there are a lot of them, from learning about you and your partner’s body, to buying toys for adults. Yes, all this will help to diversify the intimate sphere and renew passion, but the effect will not last long.
Sexual harmony in any couple is based on three pillars. The first is intimacy, partners trust each other, can talk about any topic, voice their sexual fantasies without shyness, discuss what does not fit or do not like. The second – responsibility, the game in one gate lasts a short time, both partners contribute to the development and strengthening of relationships, try to do nice to each other, and work together to ensure that the passion in bed is not extinguished.
Of course, love and mutual understanding take the first place. Without such feelings, it is difficult to build a strong and joyful relationship in all spheres. Make your loved ones happy, feel together the enchantment of the night spent, because sexual energy affects almost all aspects and processes in life.
