Many people perceive such pleasures as some kind of perversion and psychological deviation. Yes, a strong manifestation of masochism or sadism are mental disorders, but BDSM is a completely different practice and method of achieving pleasure. It is also seen as a kind of tantric meditation. Today, there is an entire subculture that explores the world of such pleasures. So how do these mysterious letters decipher? BD stands for bondage and discipline, DS for submission or domination, S for sadomasochism. And immediately the question arises, who in his right mind would agree to such a pastime, so let’s understand.
How does BDSM give pleasure?
For example, in the Czech Republic erotic massage BDSM is incredibly popular, as well as in other European countries. In general, the approach to sex and intimate pleasures in Europe is much freer, different desires, orientation are perceived neutrally, and it is normal after a hot night to say thank you to your partner and wish him good luck, without starting any further relationships.
Let’s start with the simplest one, which is submission and dominance. Both men and women can occupy very powerful positions and play a leading role in life or career. And sometimes you want to take off the burden of responsibility, relax and submit to the will of another person. Or vice versa, people lack a sense of power, and they in secret dreams want to dominate. Everyone knows that sexual energy is closely connected with all spheres of our life. That is why there is a desire to feel the necessary emotions, and a session of BDSM will quite satisfy such needs. The very style of clothing in such practices is very arousing, all sorts of revealing outfits of black and smooth leather, beautiful masks for anonymity and whips in the hands significantly invigorate and open the dark department of our desires.
Surely everyone, during sexual intercourse with a partner, has a thought, and if it is harder, take me tighter, tie my hands and restrain my movements, light strangulation and so on, and someone asks to insult or say dirty words. After which the orgasm and aftertaste from sex becomes brighter. Yes, yes these are all BDSM techniques as we see, nothing forbidden here. Of course, there is a certain subculture of people who delve more deeply into such practices and wish to inflict or experience pain. There are many paraphernalia for this purpose, handcuffs, ropes, whips, nipple clamps, suspension harnesses, gags and so on.
How can pain be pleasurable?
First, let’s dive a little into psychology. Our brain responds to two types of pain.
Endorphinic – triggered in desperate situations when the body needs to lower the pain threshold and cope.
Adrenalic
– Is triggered by adrenaline (hit or run, save yourself). The first kind is experienced by the “bottom,” which is what the BDSM culture calls the one being hurt. And the one who is exerting the influence is the “top.” Both experience pain with different receptors and types.
How do you get pleasure from BDSM? Very simple! For the bottom, moderate stimulation (pressure, not strong blows) put you in a trance, there is a feeling of flow, peace and loss of connection with reality. Some describe such sensations as weightlessness, blocking of unnecessary thoughts and complete stop of the world around.
The upper one, in turn, balances between adrenaline and euphoria, and controls the strength of the stimulation, comparable to running away from danger without knowing whether you can or not. In both cases people feel at the moment only here and now, all problems, worries, thoughts just evaporate. Many scientists have proven that it is after such practices, all those who participated in the process, stress levels decrease, cognitive parts of the brain improve and depressive states pass.
Now it is clear why such sessions are so attractive, especially if they are supplemented with sexual sensations. Such impact on erogenous zones colossally changes a person’s earlier perception, the receptors on the skin are simply exposed, and this leads to multiple orgasms and incredible sensations.
Should I try BDSM?
If you have such desires and fantasies about them, it is worth warning your partner and get full consent. Initially, you should talk about all the rules and be sure to specify the permissible barrier of pain. It is also necessary to come up with a stop word if the sensations begin to be uncomfortable. For example, saying it hurts me, stop immediately or stop, can lower the degree of arousal and passion in the other partner or vice versa. The previously described effects after practice are very attractive and one should not deny oneself such fantasies and pleasures. It is just necessary to start with light spanking, binding, as well as sexual play and determine who and what role will play. In this way, it is much easier to understand whether such sexual variety suits you or not, as well as to know what kind of pain can bring you pleasure.
It is not for nothing that many people recommend to start exploring such a fascinating world by turning to professionals. In many European countries, erotic salons offer such services and are ready to become a guide for a fantastic experience. Safety and consent in BSM is paramount! Of course, it is better when the first time will be spent with a person who knows all the peculiarities and nuances of such techniques, will be able to advise and guide, as well as reveal all your innermost desires. Have a pleasant journey!
